The Art of Conversation

The Art of Conversation

hi my name is s and today I wanna rent blockbuster movies are judged on a lot of things and one particular aspect that always intrigues me in movies is the writing writers have to conceive the conversations that create the dialogue of the movie to tell a story or a narrative and one of the movies that does this brilliantly in my opinion at least is V for Vendetta the 2005 movie tells the story of fascist Britain in a fictional future based on the original comics by Alan Moore the government caused people to believe that security is only achievable through control a vigilante code named B sets out to give people back their freedom for he believes that government should be afraid of people and not vice-versa now although the movie tells the story using various techniques one of the strengths of the movie is the stark contrast in conversational depth between the characters when ve talks to Evie his love interest in the movie the conversations are warm albeit poetic they’re not flirtatious but genuinely interesting building off the themes of freedom and fighting as I watched the movie again I realized how beautiful some of the conversations were and it got me thinking if I were to ask you what is the single greatest conversation you’ve had or heard in your life what would you say would it be a conversation with your partner a conversation with your best friend maybe you’ve never heard the conversation or been part of it but you’ve learned about something like the conversation of Moses with God whatever it is what’s certain is that you’ve had at least several thousand conversations over your life from the moment you could create thoughts in your mind you’ve used words to create sentences to express those thoughts publicly to others and in doing so you’ve engaged in conversations but I beg to argue that if something is so fundamental in how we as a species engage with one another then the skill of striking and interesting conversation is something that should be sought and a conversation can only be it as engaging as the entities involved in the conversation which is where you my dear viewer come in our generation has been given every reason so as not to appreciate true conversation although technology has helped keep us in touch it’s shallowed our relationships as well our relationships with our phones have become just as important as the relationships we have with people if not slightly or in extreme cases some suffer from delma phobia a word first used in 2008 to describe an irrational fear of being detached from one cellphone being addicted to the dopamine surge that follows each notification dick but even if we aren’t addicted to our phones the fact that most of our daily texting consists of short quips one-liners and gif usage has probably diluted our ability to hold a genuinely interesting conversation something my friend Melton right would have argued if he were alive in 2019 in his 1936 book the art of conversation Wright argues just that conversation is a stimulating exchange of thoughts with an end in view the purpose of the conversation drives encouraging the participants to offer their own input on the topic and in doing so approaching that end now this end isn’t necessarily one person destroying another person’s argument but each expressing his or her own thoughts on the matter in a manner that is both respectable and mature this according to Wright isn’t just an innate quality that some elite are privileged with but a skill that can be taught and nurtured as Wright aptly puts it in his book as is the case with any art there are underlying principles about which there is no secret for the application of these principles there is a certain technique which though flexible is just as clear and definite as the rules which apply in music or any other of the fine or applied arts when some of us think of interesting conversation we tend to think of a group of people gathered around a table their faces flushed and wide smiles spread across much like the depictions of Emile this was a German painter who focused most of his work on rural Germany in his painting adequately titled the admirers for example all the light in the image points towards the softly painted female sitting at the head of the table faces around the table are smiling laughing or just simply lost this painting titled the hunters again taps into your senses and makes you hear the conversation rather than just see it aside the man asking for a refill of his jug all eyes in the painting point towards the man sitting at the head of the table flailing as he shares some story about his adventures with the others on the table some look at him in apprehension others in admiration but the conversation is stimulating enough to keep all the listeners hooked on now Emil was well known – beautifully paint his actors sometimes over romantic sizing them in his work and although these might have been very engaging hypothetical conversations Wright would argue that argumentative discussions could and should also be considered good conversations so as long as they do not insult or attack any of the converse errs a good conversation is not defined by how much you smile or laugh but rather by the quality of ideas exchanged in his dialogues for instance Plato describes how Socrates would argue with the people of Athens Socrates was the protagonist of his stories and the way he would converse with people would be through a series of questions that would effectively draw out the answers he saw from those people questions of this form are away right describes as being an effective method for starting conversations Socrates however wasn’t particularly careful not to insult people with his questions for his questions would often show people their ignorance forcing them to regrettably succumb to his views through logic and reasoning this needless to say wasn’t appreciated by the people of Athens and Jacque bluey davines death of Socrates might be what right would describe as a failed conversation seeking opinions therefore is a much more favorable approach ask someone what the sum of 20 and 22 is and they will either know or not but ask them which of the three Anna Jones movies are the best and they will be motivated to express their opinion asking someone’s opinion according to Wright is asking for the product of his own mental operation and of that he is proud you value his reasoning powers and his judgment this taps into their basic instincts encouraging them to partake in the conversation these instincts are attraction self assertion and curiosity get someone to feel any of these there’s a very high chance you’ll have a conversation started find out what intrigues a person and get them to wrap their opinion about it but once the conversation started your skill as a converse err lies in finding a topic interesting enough to keep the dialogue engaging now there are myriad topics that I’ve into but your skill lies in trying to fish for the topic that gets the person to talk as tough as this might be at times a great way to make people enjoy your company is by actually getting them to talk about themselves this shouldn’t come as a surprise at some point humans believed that they were the center of the universe so a little bit of self centrism is not surprising and a rather interesting test psychologists at the University of Harvard asked participants to talk about themselves and talk about others and noted the response in the different regions of their brains the results of the study concluded that people liked talking about themselves their lives their work their children their partners their hobbies get a person to talk about themselves and they’ll like you much more by the time they’re done although I do have my own personal critiques too Wright’s book it does offer a number of avenues worth considering in conversations if you my dear viewer feel like you want to improve the quality of your conversation then maybe you should give his book a read but here are some thoughts before we wrap up when something becomes too familiar we can forget the pleasure we can reap out of it conversations the basis of social interactions of social organisms for dozens of millennia have probably fallen between the cracks of this fast-paced world but perhaps conversations aren’t meant to be rushed perhaps the strength of the conversation lies in the fact that a proper conversation a true one makes you forget that you hurry it makes you lose track of time it’s not a matter of speaking slowly but selectively choosing your words and enjoying how those words are received by the person you’re conversing with it truly is an art and one that should be enjoyed by all as this episode comes to an end I want you to imagine this with me yours somewhere warm the soft motion of the waves on the shore of the beach hums in the background you can hear the seagulls in the distance and in front of you is someone you would love to spend time with you look at each other and a joke rushes through you a sensation that you want to share everything with this person you want to tell them about all that’s been going on in your life and you don’t want to leave you want to keep on talking and listening until it gets dark if you’ve never felt that if you’ve never felt like you don’t want to leave some where you’re sitting with then maybe just maybe you haven’t had a proper conversation in a long time and even though I don’t know you I’m sure you deserve to enjoy thanks for listening to my rant until next time yes [Music]

100 thoughts on “The Art of Conversation

  1. I consider myself as one of those who appreciate an elegant and sophisticated conversation,so I want to thank you for highlighting the importance and beauty of a rich conversation which is truly a piece of art

  2. قناة مين دي يا جماعه وانا جيت هنا ازاي ؟!
    وازي اشتركت من غير ما يكون فيها فيديوهات اليوتيوب؟!!!

  3. الفيديو محتاج سب تيتل انجلش برضو لان اوقات بنسمعه واحنا ف مواصلات او سايقين فمحتاجين نقرا الكلام لو مسمعناهوش

  4. Watching this video somehow felt like that proper conversation on the beach with someone you love that you were talking about at the end. I absolutely loved it. Like not only was it actually beneficial and enjoyable but also very soothing. Your voice (which I found different from your voice in arabic lol) is very fitting and easy to listen to. You can record audio books 😁

  5. Your voice and the music are so soothing💆🏼‍♀️

    Loved how much infos you’ve gathered in just a 10mins vid.. very well-orchestrated approach which has helped me to better understand this important subject.. can’t wait for the next one👏🏻 💙

  6. فيديو جميل جدا كالعادة من سمير وطريقة الكلام الهادية مع الباك ميوزيك والاصوات بتجيب راحة نفسيه كده وفكرة التشانيل جميلة جدا بجد⁦♥️💜💜💜💜

  7. Just like I thought, words I've leaned from this video and looked up their meanings: (I'm typing them so I can memorize them 😅)
    Sought, v = researched
    Entities, n= beings
    Surge, n= wave/rise/rush
    Quips, n= irony/sarcaem/ (memes)
    Elite, n = a superior part of a group in terms of abilities and qualities
    Innate, adj. = inborn/natural
    Apprehension, n = concern
    Succumb, v = give up/surrender/undergo

  8. للي عايز يقرا الكلام او يترجمو عربي دوسوا علي التلت نقط اللي فوق في الشاشة و اختاروا caption

  9. The episode was pretty sweet. But the voice tone was way too calm and soothing. Higher tone would help keep the audience engaged and interested. It might suit some ppl, but not the majority
    Other than that, it's was so beautiful. Well done, S.

  10. عندي فكره حلوه اوي ياريت يعني ممكن محتوي الكلام يوضع علي الشاشه اثناء التحدث دا افضل بالنسبه اللي لغتهم بسيطه ومش فاهمين الكلام بالتحدث بالغه الانجليزه فهينموا لغتهم اكتر وهيتعلموا في نفس الوقت

  11. اجمل شي عملته انك حطيت caption بالعربي..
    شكرا جزيلا على هاللفتة..
    واللوحات الي مختارهن عظيمات جدا..
    عنجد حسسوني بقيمة المشاعر الانسانية وجها لوجه..
    Keep going

  12. Okay I didn’t expect this but it’s really so good it’s just a masterpiece as always, you really deserve to be known all over the world as the best youtuber ever

  13. I loved it so much and I really love the topic however I have some comments
    Don't use the pop sound you used to use in egycholohy cause it's confusing for me (as an old fan)
    Second at some points you sound like a robot by pausing between words so you might want to work on that
    Third, please make another version of these episodes that are only audible on soundcloud cause it's a kind of content I'd like to hear over and over especially with your voice is so nice to hear
    Thank you and good luck ♥️💡

  14. اتمنى من كل قلبي تكون شخصيه مقدرة عالميا لانك بجد تستاهل💜💜استمر✌️

  15. I feel you are more like yourself doing content in English . This channel has a great future . Keep doing what you love bro and keep it up!

  16. The last bit was absolutely beautiful because through out the whole video I kept thinking if I really did have a true conversation ever but after I heard that I was sure I did and it made me happy. Thank you

  17. That was such a nice experience, Sam!
    I felt like I was hearing one of your blog posts rather than reading it as usual. And it was as great as every blog post you've written so far.
    There're always some quotes that just touch the heart once hearing/reading them. You definitely have a way with words!
    Keep going. And best of luck 🙂

  18. Beautiful samir💖 your voice and the music is so is like a mindfullness workout with insightful ideas.
    I felt as if you were reading one of your blog posts to us.
    Can't wait for the next time

  19. عميقة جدا عايز اتفرج عليها تاني بتركيز اكتر
    محتوي مختلف وانا بحب المحتوي دة جدا، بيجي في الافلام كتير وبعشق الدقيقتين الي بيبقوا في الافلام ذي الفيديو دة وببقا عايز اتفرج عليها تاني دلوقتي انت بتقدم المحتوي دة وان شاء الله يبقا مستمر وشكلي هحبها اكتر وهتفرق معايا نفسيا،
    واحترمت ان في caption عربي جدا.💙

  20. This was impressive. With the fast-paced world that we live in, and with technology forcing itself into our daily activities, a real and genuine conversation is something that's starting to slowly disappear from our lives. Thank you for reminding us of its value with your soothing and calm voice, Sam. <3

  21. محتاجاك تساعدني اطور من لغتي الشبه معدومه حقيقي بحبك وبحب الي بتقدمه وعايزه افهمه

  22. love and nothing but true love….. you are a true inspiration to me… A top Role model among my role models… BTW I happen to be freshman mechanical engineer XD:

  23. اتمنى تكون الترجمه بالعربيه الفصحى وليس بلهجه معينه
    ليس عنصريه ضد اللهجه المصريه
    انا اعشق الدبلجه المصريه في الكرتون والالعاب
    وبنطرب الى اخر حد واستمتع واعيش داخل الحدث
    بس وقت الترجمه نحتاج عربيه فصحى عشان نطور لغتنا الانجليزيه
    انا اطور نفسي بهذي الطريقه وكنت كل ما اشوف اللهجه تتغير يجيني error في مخي ويقطع حبل الاتصال
    واخر نقطه هو ان الترجمه ماكانت بتترجم كل شيء ١٠٠٪؜
    بل ٩٨٪؜ تقريباً والى نتمنى ان الترجمه تكون حرفيه
    راح نستمتع بأدق تفاصيل الكلمات المظافه وندخل في الجو
    مثال على ذلك مشهد الشاطىء كان مليء بالكلام والترجمه قليله
    استطعت فهم اغلب الحديث الانجليزي من ما سحبني بداخل المشهد اكثر عكس الكلمات السطحيه المترجمه
    وشكراً، ممتنين لكل دقيقه من وقتكم تقضونها في انتاج الفديوهات الثريه هذي ♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️

  24. Watching it right now cause I had school stuff sorry I rly wanted to watch it when it got uploaded but I'm sure the episode is amazing

  25. عاش اوي يا سمير بجد فرحانة بيك جدا و المحتوى تحفة و الصوت هادي و بطئ و دي حاجة تحفة أكيد هتساعدني انا و غيري في تقوية الانجلش فتحت الكابشن الانجلش و ركزت و كمان عشان كنت بتتكلم بطريقة هادية عرفت أجمع الكلام بسهولة
    استمر 🌷 عاش جدا 💖💖👏🥰

  26. This is amazing .. I really wanted someone to talk about our relationship with keyboard and how it become a very bad habit.. thanx Sam it's awesome as usual 💙💙

  27. I have a comment on your new channel.. I don't mean to be rude or mean but egychology was more entertaining this one has a great content but it needs more work to be also entertaining… I love you so much and I really appreciate your great work

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