Draw My Life – Charisma On Command

Draw My Life – Charisma On Command

Hi, guys. I am Charlie of Charisma on Command and you voted that I should do this video so this is Draw My Life and I really shouldn’t
have done this myself and you’ll see why in just a second. So I was born in Bucks County, Pennsylvania
which is a small suburb outside of Philadelphia. My mom was a nurse and my dad was a salesman but more than that, they were both awesome parents who loved me a lot and any success that I’ve had in my life is really completely their doing so I love you mom and dad. I was the first born and my sister, Jackie, was born two years after me, my little brother Henry was born two years after her and he instantly became my sidekick in trampolining and video gaming and sometimes in beating up my sister when she wouldn’t get off the computer so that I could use AOL. And I am sorry, Jackie; I swear I’m past that. My childhood was really pretty awesome suburban fare. I love Ninja Turtles and Power Rangers and playing make-believe and sometimes, I would pretend that this tree and my friend’s yard was Zordon and he’d give me missions to go beat up my siblings
which I’m pretty sure that they never appreciated so yeah, I was kind of a pain in the butt as a big brother. When I was six, I spent a month begging for a cat because I loved animals so much. I used to scribble messages on printer paper and then leave them over the house. The most ingenious spot was stuck to the back of the toilet seat so that when my parents went to the bathroom they would know that I really wanted a cat. Eventually, they gave in and we got this black cat named Jack who was a girl but that was her name and I loved her. I even slept indian-style so that my legs would make this little bed for her and somehow, I managed not to move the entire night for years on end. She got sick though and died when she was only three and even though I was only nine I felt so guilty that I couldn’t save her. I felt like I should have loved her more and that feeling of always needing to do more for the people around me really stuck with me and kind of led to trouble later in my life but I’ll get to that. I was a smart and introverted kitten and as I grew up, my interest shifted to fantasy books like Animorphs then to RPGs including every single Final Fantasy and all the variants and finally into paintball which at least was semi social. I almost never made new friends beyond the three or so that I hung out with but in 10th grade, I met this guy named Ben in health class and he liked paintball and RPGs too so we became best friends pretty quickly. As I grew into senior year, my interest shifted again; this time to something I knew nothing about — girls. And Ben and I would play video games and discuss who we’d
liked but outside of conversation with him, I was so shy. I would have these year-long crushes on girls and never speak to them. Other people noticed me for being so shy which is ironic, I know, and I won the senior superlative for most likely to break out of a shell in college. My other friend won most likely to be President so yeah, we were pretty much tied. I really did try to break out of my shell when I got to college and there was this one girl that I had a huge crush on and this time I stepped way out of my comfort zone and we actually spoke. In fact, we became good friends. After several months, we kissed though she had to make the first move and it was the highlight of my life; I thought I was such a stud. I’d already planned how I would be dating and all the things we
do together so I was happy that it had finally become a reality. But the next time we hung out, we didn’t kiss. I was confused and on her way out, she admitted
that she didn’t like kissing me; I was bad at it. And she said that I was so nervous around
her that I could barely look her in the eyes which was true and made me immediately stare at my feet. A few days later she had another boyfriend and we stopped talking so much. I felt so stupid and embarrassed and hurt and I made a vow to never feel that way again. I decided that I needed to get the heck out of my college
town; after all, I hadn’t broken out of my shell, I’d made basically two friends in my first year, and now, the
girl that I had a crush on was dating someone else. So the first chance that I got, I joined a study abroad program. That turned out to be one of the most pivotal decisions of my entire life. When I arrived in Costa Rica, no one knew me and so I could reinvent myself. I spoke to everyone, I’d walk up to people on my college campus, look them in the eye and ask the dumbest questions — anything to just be more social. I said yes to every single invite I got to go anywhere
and I took salsa dancing classes to meet more people. I even managed the courage to ask a girl in my class out and we wound up dating. My schoolwork wasn’t the best but I had more important project and that was learning to be charismatic. One day, about halfway through the semester, we were out at a karaoke bar and a girl said to me, “Charlie, you are naturally the
most confident outgoing person I’ve ever met.” I was stunned. I told her that, “No, I’d only started being
social three months ago,” and she didn’t believe me. After a year abroad, I came back for one final college semester in the US and it felt like everything had changed — people were responding differently to me, girls were saying that I look good even though I hadn’t changed it all physically. One girl that had flat-out rejected me when I asked her on a date was now back-channeling through a mutual friend to
let me know that she had noticed me and, I won’t lie, that built my ego up quite a bit; I felt special,
I felt like a leader, like I was in control… it was wild. But the real world hit and soon after school, I got a job as a
consultant in Washington DC and I was almost instantly miserable. My work consisted of Spreadsheets and PowerPoint presentations and meetings about things that I just really didn’t care about. Every morning when I got up and put my suit on, I felt like a fraud like I was living the one precious life I had doing something that wasn’t meaningful to me. Now, don’t get me wrong; my co-workers and bosses were all very nice people and they even liked me despite the fact that I obviously wasn’t fully engaged. But I miss the adventure of traveling abroad, I miss learning about things I cared about, and I miss my best friend, Ben, who was in New York City and putting in 16-hour days at an investment bank. But a book came to the rescue and that was The 4-Hour Workweek. When Ben and I read it, we instantly saw a way out of
the corporate climb that was going to be our futures. All we had to do was start a successful business and that is something neither of us knew anything about so easy peasy and that’s how BCX Parkour was born. We made a DVD teaching people how to learn parkour and it worked. People were buying it but it still wasn’t enough money to support me and I was slowly losing my mind in DC. I wanted to be in the same city as Ben so that we could grow our side business
but I couldn’t afford to just quit my job so I tried something bold. I asked the president of my company if I could just not come into work anymore. I told him how I was feeling in DC I asked if I could do remote work from New York where Ben lived. I was shaking because this was a ludicrous request from someone who hadn’t even gotten a single promotion at the company. Shockingly though, he said yes so yeah I made a ludicrous request and got a life-changing answer thank you so much to both Leto and Raj for that. I spent the next five months sleeping on Ben’s floor happy as a clam to be reunited with my best friend. Our parkour business puttered around making a little bit of money but our hearts weren’t in it. We didn’t really care about parkour and we were
having too much fun just hanging out with one another. And then the rug got pulled out from under me; my company let go of everyone that wasn’t a full-time office employee which was corporate lingo for Charlie-no-longer-had-a-job-or-income and that created crossroads in my life. I was now unemployed with a struggling side business. Would I scramble to find another job or would I do something else? I thought back to how I felt putting on that
suit every morning and the answer was clear. Even if it cost me everything, I was all-in on this entrepreneurship thing. But given how BCX Parkour went, I knew my only chance of success was if I made my business about something that I loved which terrified me. Failing at parkour, that was one thing. But failing at something I loved, I felt like that would rip me apart. So with my finances dwindling, desperation finally kicked in and I just started. Because I had personally become more confident
and seen success in my relationships with women, I started helping other guys to learn the same thing and I began sharing dating tips on different forums with my new business being named Kickass Academy which I thought was the coolest name ever. Now to make some cash, I held an in-person class on how to get a date by meeting a girl in the park and I know it’s cheesy but that
was the only thing that existed back then — dating coaches. The idea of teaching charisma or confidence really wasn’t out there. So I posted it online and I gave away five seats to my class. I charged 15 bucks for the remaining five seats
and we, last minute — I swear, sold out. And after paying for the room and splitting the money with Ben who taught the class with me, we each made 18 bucks. It wasn’t much but it felt amazing to make any money
doing something that I cared about and even better, there was this 19-year old Australian kid who stuck around after class. He loved what we were doing and he offered to help in any way that he could. We said, “Sure,” and our first fan actually wound up becoming a business helper and one of my best friends; he wound up dropping out of college and traveling the world with us but I’m getting ahead of myself. You see, Ben and I had this dream. It was bigger than just running our own business; we wanted to live on the beach in Brazil with our best friends and we wanted to do work that we loved to never have to wear a suit again and to become the
best versions of ourselves while we had a blast doing it. So even though Kickass Academy was getting
clients in New York, the answer was clear. As soon as Ben’s full-time work contract ended, we’d leave our clients, our income, and our families behind to move to Rio de Janeiro, Brazil. But we would take our friends because when we started telling people about this dream, some of them got super excited. Benji, the Australian guy who came to our first class didn’t even hesitate; he dropped out of college with pretty much no
money and didn’t even tell us how tight he was. He couldn’t afford a mattress so he slept on
this box spring for the first month in Brazil and somehow he convinced all of us that he didn’t mind it saying, “It’s good support for my back, mate!” Sorry for the terrible Australian accent, Benji. All in all, seven other people left jobs, school and
their lives behind to come live with us in Rio. It was a blast. We played football on the beach, we set up house work sessions to do our business, and we were always exploring for fun parties. Our new housemates even gave us a huge business tip — kill the name Kickass Academy; it sounded like a lame martial arts dojo. Ugh. I knew that they were right so I had to give in; Kickass Academy was done. We also started focusing on more than just dating since our real interest was in confidence that permeated all aspects of life — the type of confidence that inspired us to quit our jobs in the first place. So with that, Charisma on Command was born. Now, Brazil wasn’t all roses; I was pretty tight on cash after quitting my job and firing all the clients in my new business so to save money, I survived off of eggs, weight gainer powder, and acai bowls which made me really grossly sick. I’m going to spare you the details even though they make me crack up today. To make rent, I had to Airbnb my tiny room and sleep on the couch but even that wasn’t enough. Within a few months, I had to face the truth — I was failing as an entrepreneur, again. Charisma on Command wasn’t covering my bills and I was facing
the prospect of the dreaded suit if I didn’t do something. In that desperation, I realized that I needed a way to impact more people. Now I was doing Skype-coaching at the time but that was just one person at a time. And on a per-hour basis, it was more than our younger fans could afford. So I took everything that I knew and I packaged it into a
video course — the first time I’d ever done anything like that. I called it Charisma University which is very grand, I know, and I was so close to having zero dollars in my bank account that I had to ask 25 of our biggest fans to pay for the course before it was even done. Luckily, they trusted me enough that they took a chance on me. Overnight, I had enough money to pay my way through Brazil without Airbnb-ing my room and that was a huge success and because I wanted to do such a good job for the fans that supported me, I wound up creating a video course that is the core of our business to this day — no motivation like desperation, I guess. We spent the next three years travelling Brazil, Colombia, Vancouver, Las Vegas… it was amazing and I was finally able to afford rent, finally. I assumed that this would be my life — a modest
business in an industry that I’d loved funding a lifestyle that wasn’t extravagant but it was full of freedom; I had it made. Then one day, I was just clicking around and I wound up on this old YouTube video that I put up back when I was shooting Charisma University
on the effectiveness of Bill Clinton’s eye contact. It was the one that I happened to put up on YouTube just for the sake of it and when I glanced at the view counter, I was shocked. It had 100,000 views without me even realizing it so I thought, “Hmm, maybe this side project needs to become the main project.” I did a video on Conor McGregor, then Trump, then Game of Thrones, and we started getting millions of views each month and our modest business exploded. Not only did it completely change my finances but it opened my eyes to the magnitude of the impact that I could make if I used YouTube as a platform. Now, it was around this time that I started dating a girl and I swear, I fell for her so hard like I was obsessed and she felt the same way. When we weren’t in the same city, we were on the phone for several hours a day and eventually, she just moved abroad with me. We had this intense connection that was phenomenal and I’ve never felt anything like it. At this point, I really felt I had it all figured out because I had everything. I mean I had the friends, the girlfriend, the successful business that I loved… I had achieved my dream and then some. I would never feel those feelings of sadness or rejection again and I was like, “Okay, cruise control from here to 90 years old because you have done it, my man.” What a joke because our relationship had issues and our mutual obsession only served to cover those up. After a few years, we broke up and I was sadder than I’ve ever been which is crazy because after years of work, I had finally achieved my ultimate dream. I was living with my best friends, running a business that
I loved, affecting millions of people… how could I be sad? But I was. I was so upset that I couldn’t sleep at night and as thankful as I am for the many things that I learned from my ex, the biggest gift that she gave me was that sadness because it forced me to take an honest look at myself. I realized that I’d spent years focused on the outer world — the charisma, the confidence, the friends,
the girlfriend, the business — all wonderful things. And I thought that I had created the circumstances that would make it so I never felt the pain of rejection
again but here I was feeling something even worse. And so I had no choice, really, but to look inward so I grieved. I flat out cried for the first time in a long time and I faced the feeling of not being enough — that I’d run from ever since I was a shy introvert
getting rejected way back in high school. I confronted the guilt that had driven me since I was six years old when my cat died and heck, maybe it had even been there before that. This was not a fun experience but on the other side of it, there was this of peace. I don’t know that I can do it justice here but I feel
more integrated — more in balance with myself — kind of like there was this background fear of being alone that got instilled
with me from those early rejections and now I’m just not really afraid of it. I’ve more embraced an idea that has always served
me well; no matter what happens, I’ll be okay. So here I am — the beginning of 2018, 30 years old,
living in Santa Monica, California — and I don’t want me ending this video to give you
the impression that I am done with my journey. Truthfully, I’ve never felt like I had so much to learn and discover about myself and the world which is awesome. In terms of what the future might look like, well, I have a vision of Charisma on Command that is beyond just YouTube — I dream of having in-person centers across the nation where an
amazing community can get together all in one space to practice those important life skills that most schools just don’t teach. I see it integrating with our current online program so that you can have the benefit of a community to push you through those big hurdles but also simple reminders in your normal life to help make those
improvements unthinking habit no matter where you are. It’s going to be a multi-year journey but keep an eye out for that. And if you’re curious about joining Charisma University today, we would love to have you so I’m going to put a link in the description where you can learn more if it’s your cup of tea. I’m also taking singing lessons and while you won’t see any of that on this channel, you can keep track of that on my Instagram if you’re interested, @charliehoupert. Perhaps another multi-year journey, I don’t know where it’s going but I am enjoying the ride on that one as well. No matter what the future holds though, I cannot wait to share more of it with you guys knowing that any breakthroughs I have could potentially positively impact millions of people makes me feel like the luckiest guy in the world so thank you for watching and thank you for learning alongside me. I hope that you enjoyed this video and I’ll see you in the next one.

100 thoughts on “Draw My Life – Charisma On Command

  1. My goal of life is to mentally connect every living organisms on this planet 🌎 and way beyond this planet because each of us have so many ideas 💡 and then even each animal has such great ideas and then we cross physical strength when we think about beyond Earth so if everything in this Cosmos was connected each one of us would have the power of the entire cosmos!Each of us would be a god and life would be in the sense of infinity!!!

  2. You actually inspire so many people in showing them how you have to find the right balance In life between money and happiness. Also I agree that life is a never ending school where we learn something wherever we go!
    Much support to your business from Austria! ☺️

  3. Hey there. I just wanted to say thank you. With all of your subscribers and comments you probably won't read that but I've watched a lot of your video those last couple of day and I just wanted to say that I really appreciate what you and your friend are doing with Charisma on Command. This channel is awesome and I am very grateful for all the work you are doing to help people without even asking anything in return. I truly appreciate your energy and your honesty as well as your willingness to not just give great advice but also to share bits and pieces of your own experience – and even more today with this special video – even though it must not always be easy to open up to strangers in front of a camera. So once again thank you. You made me reconsider a lot of things, for the better I am sure. I "just" have to apply all of those advice now ;p And as I watched your procrastination video not so long ago, I should probably get going now. Once again, thank you and keep up the awesomeness!

  4. Listened to this video on my drive to work today, thank you so much for doing what you do and sharing your life with us!

  5. Wow Mr Charlie, what a ride you've had so far. Such a lovely guy inside and out, luv your videos and you've helped me so much. Big Hug for saint Charlie. X.

  6. So cool to see you share your story! Your vision of in-person centers sounds super interesting too. I can see that coming to life in so many forms from meet-ups to improv-like classes to courses that should be taught at campuses, etc etc — can't wait to see what you and CoC do next!

  7. Always learn from your videos and they inspire me working on my social life skill and also having a good attitude on challenges. These days I feel the same way you used to feel especially finding work that I have passion and not sitting in front of the laptop. I love that you always take risks and change makes the better improvement. I admit Iam not a risk taker and stay in my comfort zone and this year is going to be a lot of change in my life but like you said it’s gonna be ok. 🙂 keep on working for this channel. It’s really impactful for ppl.

  8. You should've made it on a lineless notebook and sell the notebook on eBay and donate the money. Or for you. It's up to you. (Just suggesting)

  9. Wow, I followed your videos for quite some time, and I'm surprised that you was here in Brazil! I'm a brazilian myself, and I have to say, that all of your videos are life changing! There´s always a nugget of wisdom that you can carry for the rest of your Life. Well, if someday you came back to Brazil, I hope we can share a beer or a soda 😉

  10. I love your videos!! I feel like I have had a similar journey especially to how you were able to reinvent yourself. Such a fan of your talents xxxxxxxx

  11. I didn't notice any misspelled words or unrecognizable drawings…only the appreciation in my heart for your openness and honesty that TRULY helps me in my journey. Thank you sooo much, Charlie, for being so BRAVE to tell us things that make it more clear to understand important issues.

  12. Glam & gore chatted with Henry on tinder and I checked to see if you actually had a brother named Henry 😂

  13. I’ve literally searched Charlie from charisma on command and when I saw this video I was like hopefully he will have a brother named Henry, this is after Mykie’s video, pleaseeeee Charlie hook mykie and Henry together

  14. Damn I truly identify with your personality and way of being. Thank you a lot for sharing and for being an amazing person!

  15. This literally made me fall in love with your work and appreciate all the things you do. Thank you Charlie 💓

  16. " I confronted all my guilt and fear and felt at peace with myself. I no longer fear being alone, and I feel that no matter what happens to me I will be ok." That is what true confidence sounds like. You are an inspiration. Well done sir.

  17. I just watched Mykie’s video when your brother Henry appeared….you should make a video with him 😂

  18. I enjoyed your drawings very much, because it's truly from you and not someone else, honest and original. if I tried to also draw my life my drawing skills would only be worse compare to yours.

    I was an electrical designer, but after the most recent recession, I've became a violin teacher and still am ever since, and I enjoyed teaching violin so much I never want to go back to my old job.

    Thank you for sharing your life with us Charlie, I wouldn't be where I am today without your videos, keep them coming!

    P.S. I'm hoping you have a book in plan, I would definitely like to read it!

  19. A lot of your life is my life. I was shy as a kid and didn't have many friends. I used to work for consulting firm in DC. Then I asked to be able to work remotely so I could move to NYC. Where I am now. I am miserable and want to be an entrepreneur. I don't have your business or your confidence yet. But maybe I'm on similar path as yours or at least that is what would I like to tell myself.


  21. Great video, Charlie. I am such a Final Fantasy fan and would love to have the charisma of Zidane but I'm such a Squall, I think your channel could help with that. 😊

  22. so thanks to the girl who was honest about you being a bad kisser and so on …you are what you are today 😀 (just taking stuff outta the context):))

  23. It seems you have and are going to continue to acquire wisdom in a very manual way throughout your life. There will be so many more lessons for you too because you are so open to learning. I'm very pleased you exist and your videos are an invaluable contribution to humanity.

    I also wanted to say that you're doing great! You have got the right idea about how to live your life. I bet it would be really cool to talk with you because there has been so much self development that has gone on and even cooler, I'm sure you can easily talk with people less charismatic than you because you wield your charisma from a place of empathy much more than a place of power, especially these days. But you understand how advantageous that is to you still.😉 Helping people creates influence and influence bestows power. Personal empowerment and power over others yet in a way that is consensual and non-invasive.

    Anyway, I'm starting to ramble. I appreciate you and your videos even though I've only watched a hand full so far. 😊

  24. Its sounds to me at that first job out of college was looking to save money and looking for people to lay off….look who just walked in to the door with such a request….interesting video though

  25. it’s kinda uplifting to see how it’s possible for life to turn around after high school. thanks for everything man, your story is so inspiring!

  26. For me the hardest thing it's to put my self out there in camera, it's like impossible! Any advice?

  27. Just across the nation? Mate, Charisma on Command is international. I want those centers everywhere and I know you'd like that too. Complicated? Sure, but not impossible. I'll give you a hand for the in-person center here in Argentina, we'll get it right here and then it's up to you where you want to go next.

  28. Charlie I honestly feel like if we grew up near eachother we’d be best friends, your life seems so similar to mine so far! Although I’m only 19 haha

  29. This is exactly the view on life I have, but so many people do not get it: I don't give a single shit about money. I want to enjoy life, I want a job I love to do and enjoy, I don't want to wear smart clothes, I want to be myself and make a difference. It's so hard to do that. It's so incredibly hard make people around you see that you don't care about making money and care about living a good, enjoyable life doing something you like.

  30. I wonder how many people's life problems trace back to the death of a pet.
    Dogs and cats live much shorter lives, so most people would have had a pet die during their childhood.
    And the way the death is hidden too. My cat died when I was about 10.
    I was sad, but more than that I was angry that I never got to say goodbye. She just vanished.
    Parents think they're protecting their children, but I wanted to see her, hold her and say goodbye.
    I'm 50 years old, and just thinking about this has made me cry.

  31. The terrible drawings makes this more enjoyable, probably because it seems more authentic, which is weird. I don't like well drawn draw my life videos, they seem so fake.

  32. I may have seen a total of 20 videos so far, and I never do this but I am reaching out to you because I truly feel a connection like I am staring into the mirror. I have been approached with many professional opportunities through out my life and your channel is inspiring!

  33. It is interesting how a lot of successful stories start with someone getting fired, or dropping out of college, or quitting their jobs.

  34. We love you! ❤️ You’re inspirational. Thanks for sharing your insight. I know I’ve learned A LOT. And I think you’re really attractive 😉

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